There have been times that it felt like this day would never come. We are going to meet Birth Mother 1! Yeah! We had a few more email exchanges this week and she asked some more hard questions. Then yesterday she asked if we could meet her. So, we are going on Monday. Super fast trip. We will just be there for the night. This doesn't really commit either her or us but we feel really good about it. And she has told the agency that she really likes us.
It is really exciting. And scary and wonderful. I think this will really help the birth mother and us come to a decision on the match. Arranging the trip so fast has been challenging but we are handling it. The logistics part are easy but the emotional tension that comes with it is harder than I thought. A & I are both a little high strung. In a good way. I know that I have been on fire today with everything I have worked on. It is really intense but I am feeding on it right now. I don't know how I will feel by Monday.
Friday, July 24, 2009
Wednesday, July 15, 2009
The rollercoaster continues
Well, things have changed and things have stayed the same. In my last post I wrote that we were going on the last minute list. And we have. But so far that has made no difference. In other developments, though we have been in contact with 3 birth mothers. Birth mother 1 contacted us earlier this year. We had several email conversations and felt a strong connection with her. She is due in October and has time to think. So she went quiet for a while and we thought she might be gone. She is back though and we had a phone conversation that we thought went very well. It has been a couple of weeks since we heard from her last.
Birth mother 2 just contacted us on July 4. She is great for different reasons. We think that she is also due some time in October. She sent us a power point of her and the birth father! Crazy! We have not heard from her since. She has done an intake with our agency though. So at least she is getting good counseling.
Birth mother 3 contacted us yesterday. We were very excited because there were many things we shared in common with the birth mother and birth father. And with a whole other twist. They are having twins. They asked some great questions and I responded openly to all of them. One of them was about spirituality and religion. I was open and honest about our commitment to our church and to Christianity. Unfortunately they were hoping for a Universal Church or Non Denominational type church association. The birth father doesn't want the baby raised in a Christian house hold. (He was raised Catholic and apparently didn't like it very much.) So we got the response today that they are not a match for us.
As you can imagine this is an exhilarating, frustrating, annoying, joyous and exhausting process.
Keep us in your prayers.
Birth mother 2 just contacted us on July 4. She is great for different reasons. We think that she is also due some time in October. She sent us a power point of her and the birth father! Crazy! We have not heard from her since. She has done an intake with our agency though. So at least she is getting good counseling.
Birth mother 3 contacted us yesterday. We were very excited because there were many things we shared in common with the birth mother and birth father. And with a whole other twist. They are having twins. They asked some great questions and I responded openly to all of them. One of them was about spirituality and religion. I was open and honest about our commitment to our church and to Christianity. Unfortunately they were hoping for a Universal Church or Non Denominational type church association. The birth father doesn't want the baby raised in a Christian house hold. (He was raised Catholic and apparently didn't like it very much.) So we got the response today that they are not a match for us.
As you can imagine this is an exhilarating, frustrating, annoying, joyous and exhausting process.
Keep us in your prayers.
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