Everything is not always as it seems

In my last post I mentioned that there was a couple in our church who already got matched and had a baby girl. They only got to keep her for 10 days. It is a complicated situation but it comes down to the state deciding that neither the father or mother were competent enough to sign the relinquishment papers. ( I think.) The birth mother and birth father are both mentally challenged which the adoptive parents knew. But they were working with a social worker who was taking them all through the process. It seemed like a done deal. It is so unfortunate. I feel so badly for our friends. In some way I feel little relief that is not us. But I also feel trepidation knowing that it could be us. It seems like such a simple idea. A woman is pregnant with a baby that she doesn't want to parent. A couple can't get pregnant but want to be parents. Let's put the 2 together. It just doesn't seem to work that way. . . .

Overdue Checkin

It has been a long time since I posted but there has been little to update. In the big picture nothing has changed. A & I are still waiting. It is sometimes very frustrating. We have not even had any contact. I know that God has a plan and we will be parents when it is time for us to be but I don't always keep that in mind. It can seem so unfair to see other people become parents so easily. The most recent occurrence. A couple from our Church that is using the same agency finished their paperwork and became available for a match 3 months after us. A few weeks ago they were matched and already have a baby girl. We are very happy for them but deep down it does seem a little unfair. But that is the way that Open Adoption works. We can only put the request out there. And based on the information available the Birth Mother chooses. It is one of the many things that we can not control in the process. It has made us a question if we are even supposed to be parents. But fortunately we have friends and family who are supportive. And as many have pointed out. If pregnancy doesn't come easily then there is no easy path to parenthood.Each path is just challenging in different ways.
Lately we have tried to focus on ourselves. Filling our time with work, church, and celebrating birthdays and anniversaries. Taking advantage of being able to stay out on a weeknight, meet friends for a drink on last minute notice, etc. It is little comfort but it is what we have control over. We can only use the time we have the best way we know how.